How to best worship the gods that be?
September 14, 2011 12:28 PM Subscribe
Getting up close and personal with someone who could greatly improve my future?
posted by Peregrin5 to Human Relations (23 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I've been put in this situation before.
By some rare lucky chance, I happen to work with a top mind in a field I am interested in pursuing. I literally sit 5 feet away from that current idol everyday as he or she fulfills their daily work, totally oblivious to me, though I might be the only one in the room. They tend to have personalities that are abrasive and brusque as well, so they're definitely not going to be the ones who start conversation, nor seem likely to appreciate being stuck in a conversation with a lowly student as myself.
I don't do anything to help the situation either, being an introverted student star-struck from the immense exceptional aura shimmering from my esteemed superior. So I bury my nose in my work, and do my best to be as silent as possible to not bother the higher-being sitting a mere table-width away.
Generally, though we're are in close proximity to eachother, they don't generally work directly with me, and there are 4 or 5 people in the heirarchy that are above me that mitigate the commands from the idol to myself. I just happened to land in the same geophysical area.
I know that getting into the good graces of such a person would be greatly beneficial to my future prospects of getting into the grad school program of my choice, however, attempting to begin a relationship with this in mind seems petty and shallow, and I assume my attempts will be easily seen through.
The person in question never really has the benefit of seeing the proficiency of my work or how dependable I am, because as I stated, I report to those below him or her, and while they may laud me and shower me with affection, they see no need to pass the applause higher up the ladder. They're too busy trying to impress the person in question themselves.
So I don't feel I can appeal to the person with small-talk and conversation, and I don't feel that I can woo them over with my work (which is my real strong point). The person is also extremely busy and will not be receptive to my attempts either.
Though forcing a relationship for recommendation purposes seems cheap and shallow as I stated before, I still kind of really need a letter from them. How would I go about bettering my relationship with the untouchable personages that I work with and obtain that glowing recommendation?