Should I criticize my boss in my exit interview?
September 14, 2011 12:11 PM Subscribe
Exit letter and interview...how should I treat the elephant in the room...my incompetent boss?
posted by idle to Work & Money (26 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
asking for a friend: After working at BIGcompany for a year, I am leaving to relocate somewhere else and work for a family business. It's my second job out of college and I took it because I needed it. I am a programmer and I am the only woman on my team. It has a lot of bureaucracy, but basically my team has one boss who also has his own boss, a woman who I haven't ever even really talked to.
My direct boss is completely an idiot. He is a terrible leader who does everything wrong. I can't even believe he is employed. There is no "teamwork" on our team and efforts to bring it in have been quashed by him. As a result our output is an inconsistent mess. We spend time writing code and then realize someone else on the team has written code for the same thing already. We have team meetings every couple of months. People are constantly late or "working from home." Projects are always finished late. He's been on vacation for over a week now and put no one in charge and didn't even tell me. Things are falling apart...our clients are going crazy.
Then there is the issue that he has made me feel uncomfortable as a woman, making snide comments every so often that are sexist, sexual harassment, or both. I haven't said anything because I feel powerless...I can't afford to lose this job, even though I hate it, and I don't want a hostile work environment to add on to the chaos.
But thank God, now I'm free. I'm going for an exit interview with the lady boss and I don't know if I should be honest? My parents say no, that I might need a reference some day and that you should always quit nicely, but I'm not sure since I'm going to work in a different industry...