Not wanting to share condo---major guilt
July 30, 2011 4:52 PM Subscribe
We bought a condo in a resort town and I feel guilty about the fact that I am not excited about my adult sister and her family or my adult brother and his family or my husband's siblings and family using it.
posted by seekingsimplicity to Human Relations (27 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I have been approached by my bro and sis with little hints about using it. I don't know why but I feel selfish about it and feel like if I start letting them use it, it could become a problem.
Actually I don't even feel like inviting them to stay with us in it when we are in it! I feel like it is our family retreat. (we have 2 adult kids and a high school-er)
I guess I am confused about my selfish feelings and yet I have seen what kind of togetherness can happen when it is just "one big happy family" in a family summer home. As in, very little peace and quiet, many comings and goings and not a lot of order. I wish I were a person who believed "the more the merrier" but that is not how I am wired.
We have hosted my sister and her family and my brother and his family one time in the year we have owned it. We have not yet invited my DH's family. They have not hinted at it yet.
My husband is in a pressure cooker job with tons of travel so he goes there to relax. He is more social that I am though and would not be bothered to have relatives there from time to time.
Help me understand my guilt and are there any easy solutions for not being a scrooge but still maintaining major privacy?