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October 14, 2010 7:21 AM Subscribe
What’s it like to grow up with two working parents?
posted by yawper to human relations (48 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
My kids are 6 and 7 and I’ve been working full time for basically all of their lives. With so many other things they go through, I can understand because I’ve also been through them. But because I grew up with a stay-at-home mom, I can’t relate to their experience in terms of spending time with me and dealing with our busy schedule. (My husband grew up in a similarly traditional family so he can’t relate either).
My kids don’t get home until about 5:45 (we pick them up from their after-school care around 5:30). Their bedtime is 8:15, so we have 2.5 hrs to get dinner ready, eat it, do any homework, have a bath if bath night, and spend some downtime together. It’s not enough for them and they often feel rushed. They are possessive of their time with me and I don’t blame them – they hardly see me! My husband and I are doing our best, and I think we’re doing a good job, all things considered. We model a healthy relationship to our kids, and they are overall happy, good kids. But I still feel guilt and wonder how this will shape them as they grow. Can you share any insights into what it was like growing up like this? What do you remember the most? Are there particular things we should/should not be doing?
I think it’s also important to note that I’m not “following my passion” or anything like that – I work full-time because I have to. In an ideal world, I’d work part-time, but we are not at that stage yet. I DON’T talk negatively about my job to my kids, but I can’t exactly gush to them about how fulfilling my work is.