There's a beach but no-one to walk it with!
July 27, 2011 2:54 AM Subscribe
I moved/relocated four months ago to a small island in SE Asia. I never really thought much about dating before this - I always seemed to have a partner if I wanted one - but there are so few single guys here looking for Western women that it might become a bit of an issue. But if I try online dating, my matches are likely to be from hundreds of miles away which could end up with me not meeting anyone that way either. Should I give it a go?
posted by mudkicker to Human Relations (10 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I realise this question sounds a bit pessimistic but that's not me, I'm just trying to figure out if this is worth doing.
Basically if I go onto sites like plentyoffish or whatever, all the guys are looking for Asian women. That's cool, it's up to them, no probs. And I know some guys are looking for Western women. But I live in a tiny expat community and think if I leave it to chance to meet someone like this I never will. I'm also looking for someone to maybe travel with in a couple of years (I have a good job here right now and want to stay for a bit, but otherwise I don't care where I live; I like trying out new places). But if I start using a dating site, it's very very likely that a match will not be from this island, so I'm wondering if it's worth while to even bother.
There was a recent AskMe about people who wink at others on match.com, even if they're hundreds of miles away, and some people pointed out that plenty of people have a wide geographical base for meeting someone. I'm fine with that, but it's not as easy as getting on my bike and driving 50 or 100 miles to meet someone - we're talking flights and overnight bus trips, and at the minute I'm freelancing loads as well as working full time, so don't have holidays to take for quite a while.
So I guess my question is should I be expecting to look further afield for a partner, and is it worth putting a profile up with that stated? I don't want to be flying to Singapore or wherever for dates! But I also don't want to be emailing someone for six months before we meet up and find we don't click. Any comments or advice would be good; also on maybe wording this type of ad.
I won't be threadsitting but I realise this question is kind of vague so I'll be about for a while to answer questions or clear anything up.
I'm 36, Irish, female if it matters.