My overweight roommate is growing increasingly depressed about aforementioned extra weight. She makes poor eating choices. Should I say something?
Before you all say "omg no butt out," which is generally my preferred course of action in situations like this, hear me out.
We're in a pretty "strictly roommates" situation (strangers who found each other on craigslist), but we've been living pretty harmoniously together for about a year. She's been "trying" to lose weight the whole time, as evidenced by complaining about her weight on facebook, posting status updates like "just worked out to Sweatin' to the Oldies!" or whatever workout tapes the kids are watching these days, and buying low-cal snack packs. She also makes frequent comments to me along the lines of "man, I wish I
could eat ice cream every night" or "gee, you sure do eat a whole lot of chocolate, wish I could do that!"
The thing is, I think she could lose a really significant amount of weight just by changing her eating habits, and I honestly am not sure she really realizes this.
She's a vegetarian, but I have never seen her prepare a single fresh fruit or vegetable. Whenever I make something veg-heavy or overbuy fruit in a fit of "EAT ALLLL THE PEEEACCHESS!" I always offer her some ("hey, I'm making roasted butternut squash, want some?" or "I'll never be able to eat all these nectarines before they turn, help yourself") and she always turns up her nose. She eats takeout (usually thai food) at least every other day. Almost everything she "makes" at home is prepackaged low-fat or low-cal or Fit and Active
brand stuff (particularly snack and junk foods like cookies, cupcakes, and frozen pizza). She talks (not necessarily to
me, but in general) a lot about how she's "eating right" because she's eating the diet products. (I know her eating habits so well because we both work from home/are home a lot.)
Anyway, I'd like to just be able to ignore her, but I really don't know how to respond to her when she engages me directly. I'm not some paragon of healthy eating (see aforementioned ice cream and chocolate), but (aside from the ice cream) I eat pretty well. I make (aside from the ice cream) almost all of my food, mostly from scratch (which means if I don't want to bake cookies today, I'm not eating cookies today), and am a slim, healthy weight with a positive body image.
Should I say something? What should I say? I absolutely don't want to offend her or make this A Thing, but the guilt tripping about eating my ice cream (which I do in the privacy of my own room) is starting to wear on me.
For what it's worth, we're both solidly adults...she's in her mid 30s. Also, she's really not that fat. She is overweight, though, in a curvy badonkadonk way, but it bothers HER. Not me. Just so that's clear. She can be 400lbs for all I care, as long as she's happy.