How do you deal with a hot-tempered parent?
July 25, 2011 10:40 PM Subscribe
I need advice on building a healthy relationship with my father despite his temper.
posted by raintree to human relations (21 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
Ever since I can remember, my dad has had a hot temper. He tends to get angry about a lot of things, and has very little patience. During his raging fits, he threatens, yells and belittles. I'm not sure if my anxious personality as an adult is a direct result of that, but I often find that I cannot (or rather, avoid) stand up for myself during an argument with him. My stomach is always in knots, I don't want to look at him while I'm calmly explaining my point, etc. He has never been violent against anyone in the family as far as I can recall, but his maddening rage is enough to silence everyone. I don't know if he realizes he's hurting people around him by his constant screaming over mundane issues, but I do believe his heart is in the right place. Has anyone had experience with a parent, spouse etc. with anger issues? How do you deal with it? And how do you sit down together and talk about something without fear lingering over your head?