Scammy call or wife with gall?
May 17, 2011 6:10 PM Subscribe
A man might be cheating on his wife, but it definitely isn't with me. His wife says my number is on his phone records as having incoming and outgoing calls with his phone. Is it possible for my phone number to show up on phone records for a phone I've never called? Also, is it possible this is somehow connected with the fact that my debit card has been compromised?
posted by smirkyfodder to human relations (22 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Over the course of a week or so, I received several calls from an unknown number. Because it wasn't a number I knew, I didn't answer and just hoped they would leave a message, but they never did. Well, they sort of did. They would apparently listen to my message and then after the beep they would just hang up.
After getting tired of wasting cell phone minutes checking voice mail messages that provided no incite, I finally picked up when I saw the number calling again. The woman calling asked if I knew a certain person (she said his name) and I said I was sorry but I didn't and I asked what the call was in reference to. She asked if I had bought a car from the fellow and I said no. She asked me again if I knew him and I said no again. The call ended when I said I was sorry I couldn't help and she said "Ok, thank you." I hung up.
So then that night I got another call from the number. I answered and the same person asked if I knew that same fellow. Again I answered that I didn't know him. She told me she thought I was lying and that I did know him. She said he was her husband and she had his phone records and my phone number was all over them during February and March. Back and forth. I told her I was completely confused how my number got on his call records but I assured her it wasn't me who was calling her husband. She said he was a used car salesman and asked if I had bought a car from him, to which I replied that I hadn't but I was shopping for a car last year. She told me the calls were more recent than that.
Eventually she told me she believed that I hadn't been calling her husband but went on to tell me that this man had a history of cheating and verbal abuse. She said they have a one year old child and her father died a few months back. I felt so bad for her that I really just listened to her talk for a while, asked her to try to get help from a local agency if she felt unsafe and encouraged her to be strong. She was crying and seemed very emotional. The call ended with my wishing her luck and her thanking me for listening.
But then today I got an alert from my bank saying that my debit card has been compromised. When I called the bank, they said someone had my card information but hadn't used it yet, though they aren't sure how it was obtained.
So, #1) Is it possible that my phone number showed up on this husband's phone records even though I hadn't been calling him and he hadn't been calling me? and #2) Is there a chance that this is a scam for my debit card information?
I have no idea how they could be connected but I thought I'd ask. I appreciate your help!