Can I just hire a drill sargeant to scream at me?
April 22, 2011 4:03 PM Subscribe
I want to learn how to (temporarily) show no reaction when someone is angry with me or says mean things to me.
posted by IndigoRain to grab bag (25 answers total) 31 users marked this as a favorite
When someone yells at me or tells me I've done something wrong, I sometimes cry, sometimes shake uncontrollably. And sometimes I say things without thinking, so I want to learn to keep my mouth shut until I've calmed down and had time to process my thoughts. (This, at least, seems far easier to me than restraining the shaking and/or tears.) I remember an anecdote here on Mefi about acting like an old man sitting on the porch... about not answering someone immediately and taking time to answer. But it's hard to remember that in the heat of the moment. Keeping my mouth shut also has the added benefit of preventing any show of emotion in my voice.
Because I can't avoid mean people or doing something wrong forever, I want to learn to (at least temporarily) appear as cool as a cucumber. I want to show no emotion, much like a soldier being yelled at by his drill sargeant. In other words, I know some particularly mean people (in my family, so I can't really avoid them all the time) who seem to feed off emotional reactions and I want to deprive them of that satisfaction/encouragement. I don't have to hold it in forever, just for a short time. Is there any way to get some practice at this?