Should I stay or should I go?
April 17, 2011 6:56 PM Subscribe
My living situation is perfect. But I'm not satisfied with it. Is there a way to fix it? Should I leave? If so, how?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (20 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a recent grad in my early 20's and the past 6 months I've been living in a great house, in an awesome part of town that is accessible to my job, and pay rent that is considered a steal in an otherwise very expensive city (think 50% of average rent). My 3 roommates are nice people - no one fights, everyone keeps clean, the house is generally quiet.
But. The house is generally quiet. Like really quiet. My roommates are all in their mid to late 30's - I didn't realize this until after I moved in, because when I was initially checking out the place after finding it on craigslist I seriously thought they were late 20's. But they are way, way older and don't really live the type of lifestyle I had envisioned in a group house after graduating. No one relaxes and chats and eats dinner in the common area, no one goes out to happy hour together after work, and I don't really have deeper conversations with them than small talk because frankly we have nothing in common. It sort of feels like I'm living with strangers.
Meanwhile, I'll see my neighbors - young 20's looking kids like myself - grilling and having beers together in their backyards on nice days. And I just get so jealous. I've introduced myself to some of them but (and I consider myself a pretty socially intuitive person) they just don't seem very welcoming or looking for an imposing neighbor-friend that goes poking his head around the fence like "hey guys whatcha up to?"
My lease isn't up until October but it feels really lonely here. I constantly browse craigslist and look at other group houses that look perfect and then get angry that not only am I stuck in my lease but also feel stupid for trying to get out of what is otherwise a really good living situation (low rent, clean dishes, no tension).
If I decide to leave, what do I tell my roommates? Should I leave? Should I wait till my lease is up, or is there a graceful way to get out of this faster? Sorry for being so scattered.