Roommate's GF has effectively moved in... what to do?
October 16, 2012 2:05 PM Subscribe
At what point is a roommate's SO effectively considered "moved in"? And how do you deal with that?
posted by symbollocks to home & garden (28 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I (24m) live in a two bedroom apartment with my wife (20f) and a friend of mine (23m).
About 4 months ago he has begun dating a girl (27f). Since about 2 months ago she has been spending the night at the apartment nearly every single night. They tend to stay up late, going to bed around 1-3 in the morning. My wife and I go to bed during the weekdays around 10-11pm for work/school. They're not terribly loud, to me, but they sometimes keep my wife up for an hour or two once we've hit the sack (talking, laughing, opening/closing doors, cooking, etc.)
Right now we split the rent ($700) between us so that he pays $300 and we pay $400. I work full time, as does my friend. My wife takes a heavy courseload at school so she doesn't work most of the year. His girlfriend works 2 jobs (as a therapist and part time waitress.)
Me and my wife don't feel comfortable with her being around so much without at least moving in and helping out with the rent. Although my wife would prefer that she not move in period and just spend more time at her own place (partially because of the noise issue, partially because his girlfriend is basically a stranger to us.) If she moved in I feel it would be somewhat inequitable (because they both work) even if we split the rent evenly between us couples, so there's that too.
I'm not exactly sure how to handle this situation and would appreciate advice or personal experiences to gain some insight on what to do.