Irritating but Harmless
March 30, 2011 1:05 AM Subscribe
How do you deal with people you see often and find annoying?
posted by bearette to human relations (26 answers total) 22 users marked this as a favorite
I'm trying to be a better person and as such am looking for suggestions on how to interact with someone who I have to see often, and who annoys me ... for no really good reason.
One of my coworkers that I share an office with annoys me to the point where I get short with her and basically kind of ignore her when we're in the office together. The thing is, she's not a bad person, and is pleasant...I just find her peppy chatter irritating. I also find it irritating that she spends time in the office when not on duty. She hasn't done anything wrong but I feel like I am rude and uncharitable towards her and I can't explain why except that I find her personality irritating (I'm not actually outright rude, just short). Generally I am a pleasant, conflict-avoidant person; friendly, but not talkative except with people I especially like. THere's another coworker that I like a lot and enjoy talking to....which she observes andwhich might make her feel bad (it's a small office).
So my question is, how do you deal (and act friendly)with people who irritate you for no particular reason? Is that even necessary? How do you maintain the same attitude towards different people when you like them to different amounts? Maybe I am over-thinking?