I'm a guy. I'm 31. I live in San Francisco. I've never really liked dancing in any sense of the word--how can I change this?
I've never been one for syllabus-free dance
, largely because I really disliked the idea of not knowing what I should do next--I abhorred working without a net, if you will. I've come to be able to do it, as people at events that included syllabus-free dancing said I was feeling it. This is ok, but the whole thing feels like a chore. To be honest, I was just doing it to see if I could attract anyone, and all that happened was that I first created a zone around me where people didn't approach (perhaps I was being too vigorous--I asked for feedback on this but didn't get any, although I'm happy to attribute that to reticence--or maybe I'm just repellent), and then that, well, nothing happened with anyone I approached.
I bathe, brush, and use deodorant, and my hair is very short and neat. These are not the problem.
My problem (or one of my problems), I think, is that I don't really like
to dance. I did some ballroom dancing in college, but I didn't like it for what it was--I just liked it because it put me in contact with various cute people. (None of whom went to bed with me, by the way, which was why I stopped.)
So: How can I learn to like dancing? How can I like it for what it is, and not see it as a means to get with one of my dance partners? How can I learn how to get with my dance partners, and make this happen as soon as possible? How can I be less of the complete jerk I describe above?
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