How long did it take you to feel settled after college?
March 15, 2011 6:56 PM Subscribe
How long did it take you to find your post-college groove?
posted by queens86 to Grab Bag (33 answers total) 40 users marked this as a favorite
I graduated two years ago this May. Although I feel more settled and confident than I did a year ago, I still don’t feel totally stable—I don’t have a long-term career trajectory (although I do have a “real job”) or any long-term romantic relationship. I have moved three times since graduation—once back home, once across the country and once to another continent. I know I’m still young (recently 24) and I know these things happen at a different time for everybody. I usually look for a lot of change anyway in my life, but I do miss having a constant group of friends, and knowing more or less what I was headed for in the next few years. I’m somewhat lost at sea now, without a lot of close connections or stable lifestyle.
Do I need to stop moving around so much and force myself to stick to one place? Do I keep moving until I find a place I want to stay in? How long did it take you after college to feel like you had settled down, found a career path, and found new long term friends or romantic relationships? To stop feeling so nebulous and more grounded to something? How long does post-college angst last?
To clarify, I’m not unhappy, and although I don’t have a lot of close friends in my city, I’m not looking for suggestions on how to make more. My job is a learning curve, but I feel like I’m doing fine handling that and living alone. I just want to hear others’ experiences on their post-college experience, how long it took to feel really settled, and maybe your opinions on how much moving is “too much.”