February 3, 2011 8:34 PM Subscribe
Sparks are flying between myself and a workmate/friend from India. Help me get my head around the cultural aspect of this.
posted by dogcat to human relations (13 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
The long and the short of it: I'm American, she's Indian (from India), speaks Telugu, and is in her mid-20s. We've been friends for about two years, and I've always felt some tension between us. Over the last few months I've felt my interest increase, and I've been getting some clear signals from her as well. I've held to a pretty strict policy of no dating coworkers to this point, but I feel my resistance is getting eaten away.
Several years ago, I walked naively into another intercultural relationship with a girl and got burned. If I decide to see if this situation will turn into a relationship, I want to do it with my eyes open. What should a white, American, Christian, etc guy know about relationships with Indian, Hindu, etc. girls? Dating expectations, romance, marriage, religion, parents, roles, emotional expressiveness, everything.
I know I really ought to talk with her about most of this (as she's her own unique person), but I'm unsure about what I want to do, and I don't want to upset the situation or hurt her by seeming to lead her on.