Getting her over the edge
January 28, 2011 2:44 PM Subscribe
How do I get her off? She rarely orgasms, and I feel like I'm letting her down. NSFW.
posted by anonymous to human relations (29 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. Very healthy relationship, we're extremely close and are planning on getting married. We're waiting to have sex for the time being for religious reasons, but we still do oral, etc.
When we mess around she rarely orgasms. Probably once every four times. I've asked her for feedback and she says she's not sure what I'm doing wrong. She says it feels very good and she's very close to orgasming but can't get over the edge. She doesn't know what I could be doing differently.
I've tried everything I know how, in previous relationships I never had this difficulty. I've tried fast, slow, oral, g-spot, etc.
She's only had one previous partner, she said it was a similar circumstance with him.
She's not terribly comfortable with the idea of toys, but I could slowly introduce them if the general consensus is that it would help.
I feel somewhat incompetent. I want her to enjoy it as much as I do. We're extremely compatible on every level, and we both get extremely horny - she just can't quite get over the edge.
What could I be doing differently? Is this normal? Other advice?
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