Happy New Year: You're Homeless!
December 28, 2010 12:13 PM Subscribe
A relative is set to become homeless in few days. I don't know how to help, if I even can, or whether I should. Help me help him help himself.
posted by vivid postcard to human relations (35 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I have a relative who has been hit rather hard by the downturn in the economy. The industry he's in has suffered, which means that he was laid off over a year ago and had to live off of his savings. And credit card debt. Some combination thereof. A few months ago, he received a job offer in another state. He scrapped up his last few $$ and moved out there for the gig. He dumped everything he had left into an apartment, started working, and then...got laid off again.
He is in another state. He cannot pay rent next month, so he has to leave his apartment before then. He knows very few people, as he just moved out there. He doesn't have any good connections or resources. So he is going to be homeless.
I am freaking out. I want to help him. I have no idea how. I don't even know if I can: I live on a fixed stipend. This summer I faced both temporary unemployment and a health crisis, which obliterated my savings and put me in some debt, which I have only recently managed to climb out of. A loan on my part would be very difficult.
But he needs help.* How can I help him from afar? What resources can I find for him? Having never been in a similar situation, I don't even know where to begin looking for him, and am wondering if you have any ideas.
* Some family members would note that some of his situation has probably been exacerbated by how he's handled his finances in the past. Probably true, though it's also true that his industry did tank. While I intellectually understand these family members and their desire to take a tough-love approach to the situation, I also know that he is literally going to be living on the street. A crisis that probably demands some help of some sort at some point in the immediate future.