Breaking up as partners, not as friends?
December 21, 2010 2:07 PM Subscribe
My SO of 13 years and I just broke up. It was mutual and amicable but we feel numb. How do we process this and oh god, logistics? What do we do now?
posted by anonymous to human relations (9 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Split is amicable, so amicable in fact we can hardly believe it's happening. But we just lost our couple mojo a few years ago and it took a while to realize. But where to from here? I'm going to move out, we don't have kids, just shared possessions, finances, and good memories. Please let me know your tips for how to separate as easily and sensibly as possible. We were going to keep casually supporting each other financially for a while so we both get on our feet, but is it better to just cut things off entirely? And how to approach the future incarnation of the relationship, how close can we be without it impinging on our respective growths as individuals? We are each other's best friends, are we meant to pull back into casual friend mode now? It's so hard not to fall into couple mode by default. Should we not see each other at all for a while? Are any of you BFFs with your exes? Please share your stories.