Help me convince him that it does get better.
December 21, 2010 12:18 PM Subscribe
How can I help my 14 year old cousin? He came out as bisexual a couple of years ago and recently confessesd to me that he hates this about himself. He is also just generally miserable which I chalked up to being 14.
posted by mokeydraws to Human Relations (15 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
His mother recently mentioned that he begged her to let him transfer schools because he was being teased. He wants to go to school in the city, rather than in the boroughs. She did sign the papers. I'm not sure what her attitude is about his sexuality at this time. I did bring it up once and she was very dismissive. From what I know of her (and she raised me as well), she would not be very accepting. She also brags whenever he is hanging out with girls. She sees them as girlfriends instead of friends who are girls. She has very old fashioned ideas in a lot of ways - think of your typical Puerto Rican machismo.
Anyway, I love the shit out of this kid and want to help him, be there for him, and provide whatever support I can. I picked up Rainbow Boys by Alex Sanchez and will be passing it on to him. What are some other resources that I can direct him towards? What should I keep in mind when he tells me how miserable he is? I've told him that it will get better but it's hard for a kid to hear that and believe it.