Men: How was your mom awesome during your teen years?
August 29, 2012 11:28 AM Subscribe
Men: how was your mom awesome during your teenage years?
posted by SinAesthetic to human relations (20 answers total) 74 users marked this as a favorite
For all the guys out there...those of you who look back on your teenage years and have an overall impression of having had a great relationship with your mom, tell me what particular qualities contributed to this--both her individual qualities and the unique quality of your way of relating to each other. What kind of things helped you stay close through the natural process of individuation and becoming a man? (I'd like to steer clear of the negative version of this, "my mom was so awful because ....."). I know that teenage years are difficult for both genders and that many problems are universal, but I'm particularly interested in the specific issues guys have, from the perspective of being an opposite-gendered parent. I'm looking for things beyond just the obvious generalities like having respect for you as a person, ability to set limits but also negotiate things on a situation by situation basis, appropriate boundaries, privacy, trust, etc. that I consider baseline level good mom-ness.
If it matters: No significant family drama/trauma, and still happily married to his father. Things are great, just interested in doing all I can to keep it that way.
Yes, I've read it: Michael Gurian's The Mind of Boys
and The Wonder of Boys
; Raising Cain: protecting the emotional life of boys
, Real Boys, rescuing our sons from the myths of boyhood