Introverted thinking moms, would you please share your tips and practical strategies for navigating the shoals of extroverted, feeling-driven motherhood norms?
This blog post
makes spot-on observations about being a mother whose temperament and public presentation of the self as a mother don't mesh easily with prevailing practices. I will certainly read "MotherStyles,"
but it seems to deal only in part with my concerns; I know my temperament, and my kids' temperaments, and am intellectually comfortable with the goal of teaching them to be independent, self-directed problem-solvers with a taste for free-ranging
and pursuing their own projects. It works well for us.
But as I discovered recently, a mother who responds to a minor injury with "No blood, no foul--you're all right, hon, go play" gets funny looks. My children run around in the chicken coop and the pig pen, and handle sharp objects, and climb trees and I guess other kids don't? Huh. I'm OK with being an "individual integrity mother" at home, but how can I *feel* more comfortable in my choices when among a much more sensitive, feeling-driven group of mothers? Are there books, articles or blogs that focus on the narrower issue of being an IT mom in an EF circle?
IT moms, how do you sustain (for YEARS) the chit-chat, gift closets (gift closets?), playground chat--gracious motherhood for *others*--when just surviving the mommy madness at home is tough enough on your temperament?