Stay positive positive after moving back home?
November 20, 2010 11:46 PM Subscribe
How do I not put myself down after moving back in with my parents at 24 after almost losing my job due to alcohol?
posted by nurgle to human relations (31 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 24 year old male who recently moved back in with his parents (for the second time) after moving to a new city and losing control of finances. I have a full time job, and could technically have afforded my apartment, but after dealing with moderate depression due to a breakup coupled with social isolation from living alone in a new city with no friend support, I started going to bars. I'd be out till pretty late every night, and couldn't make it to work on time in the morning, and for that I almost lost my job.
I made the decision to move out after feeling like I was going nowhere, and felt that by getting away from that scene I'd be able to re-ground myself. Now that I've moved back home, I've fixed my car and live a lot closer to work. I am also working on repairing my credit card debt (which is at about three grand...) and just concentrating on getting to work on time and doing my job. Although these things are good, I am still having issues with feeling okay with where I am in my life. Those around me have since read me the riot act on "fucking up" and told me that "I just need to bust my ass and I'll make it", etc.
I do know that I have self-esteem issues and have been told by people that I trust and whose knowledge I've subscribed to that I need to "find myself" (whatever you want to call it) and things will start making more sense. I've also been told that everyone goes through some type of similar experience and that it is just a part of growing up.
All of this being said, when the hell does finding yourself happen, and how can I stay positive and grounded in a time where I feel like things couldn't suck any more than they already do?