It DOESN'T go to 11... How to overcome a fear of yelling?
November 12, 2010 9:27 AM Subscribe
How do I overcome my fear of being yelled at, and getting all disregulated when I do get yelled at?
posted by ShadePlant to human relations (16 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
Whenever someone yells at me, even in a friendly-get-my-attention way, I freak out.
Coworker, down the hall: HEY SHADEPLANT!
ME: STOP FUCKING SCREAMING AT ME!
Coworker: Uh, wtf?
It's like I can't even think before I respond, I get so worked up. Yelling was a pretty common childhood discipline tactic in my house, and was sometimes followed by physical discipline and some out of line stuff but nothing torturous. I've had a problem with high-volume stuff my whole life, like loud talkers, concerts, etc. I'm working on some anxiety issues but I also feel like THIS IS JUST AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE TO LOUD STUFF. *hides*
Can this be reprogrammed? I'm hoping there are more suggestions than exposure therapy, like listening to more and more yelling 'til I get used to it, cos, well, that sounds horrible.