No dad, I really don't want to pull your ear hair.
October 18, 2010 11:27 PM Subscribe
How can I tell my dad there are certain things I don't want to do for him without hurting his feelings?
posted by IndigoRain to human relations (27 answers total)
Remember this thread?
Well, some new stuff has cropped up.
The situation hasn't changed. He still just sits in front of the TV 23 hours a day. Maybe goes out twice a week either to the store or to his mother's house - she's 94.
About once a week, he comes to me with a flashlight and asks me to see if there is an eyelash in his eye. (He apparently isn't satisfied by looking in the mirror and not finding one.) Or, he will bring a pair of tweezers and ask me to yank an ear hair that's tickling him. Said ear hair is usually a stub about 2 mm long. He has a nose/ear hair trimmer.
I don't hate looking for the eyelash, but I don't know how I've managed to go most of my life without needing anyone to check my eye for a lash and he needs it done every week. But as far as yanking an ear hair? That's kind of gross and I don't want to be involved in his personal hygiene. I don't feel that that's an appropriate task for a daughter. (My mom's usually asleep when he makes these requests... they tend to come about 12-1am.) He only showers maybe once or twice a week. (Just FWIW, he is still fully capable of caring for himself in this manner.) I'm thinking this is more of the same as the last thread... he just sits around and does nothing so EVERYTHING bothers him.
Is there any way to tell him I don't want to do this stuff without hurting his feelings? Should I talk to his doctor? Please don't tell me to move out. I would love to but I can't right now and this is not something I can immediately implement anyways.