Do I hate my job, do I just hate working, or am I just plain tuckered out?
October 18, 2010 4:27 PM Subscribe
I need to figure out whether I:
(a) hate my job
(b) hate working, though it's inevitable
(c) am just wiped out mentally from other circumstances in life.
The answer is probably (d) All of the Above, but that doesn't really send me in one direction or another.
posted by theplatypus to Work & Money (12 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
Pardon the potential whiny-ness here....
I dread getting up in the morning to go to work, am cranky as heck on Sundays, feel completely unfulfilled when I'm there, and have no energy to do anything at all by the time I get home. I suspect other circumstances in my life (wife has cancer
) are contributing to the mental/emotional toll, but I can't do anything about those factors -- I wonder if I can do anything about the job.
My complaints (bear in mind my job title is "project manager"):
My role seems to tend toward tending to all sorts of deep, small details. I tend to be a "big ideas" rather than "minutiae" person, gleaning what I need from these tedious conversations and translating to something useful to myself at a higher level.
It's tough to say I know what I'm doing... the role and every day are in such flux that it's hard to feel confident. Combined with the point above, I often feel like I'm just "smiling and nodding" my way through days.
I have very little influence and no real authority/power over those from whom I need output. Tip-toeing and asking nicely only gets so far.
No opportunities to shine or excel. I don't know about the rest of my coworkers, but I don't go to work in order to not get fired... I really want to go above and beyond, to do well. However, most of my job's tasks are of the pass/fail/good enough variety.
My boss, though a genuinely great guy and a whole magnitude of intelligence smarter than me, doesn't really offer much in the way of criticism. I'm not perfect, I know I can do better, he knows I can do better, but he has a weirdly even-keel attitude that offers no real clues either way. I want to do more, but have no incentive to do so, and no energy to throw myself into high gear.
The work culture here is dysfunctional... upper management behaves like a bunch of high schoolers, with cliques and irrational, short attention spanned behavior. Everybody seems content to do just enough to not get canned. I'd hate to catch that disease, and am afraid I will become institutionalized here with that attitude.
I don't have a dream job, per se. I know this isn't it, but it's hard to pick up and try to find something new when I don't know what that "something new/different" is. My degree and skillset are terribly generic/general. You know that guidance counselor question "What would you do if you had a billion dollars in the bank, but still had to work?"... I don't have an answer, so job searching is browsing through a huge pool.
I can't just take a giant pay cut. (see problem linked above) I don't make gobs of money, but I don't have to worry too much about bills.
The boss is awfully well connected in the area. If I send out some resumes, he's likely to hear about it. When I expressed my general dissatisfaction to him a while back, he promised to make some changes for me, and if that wasn't enough, he would do his darndest to help me find something elsewhere that fits. (told you he was a nice guy)
I have a very, very short commute and can't spend all day at work. I'm determined to spend as much time as possible w/ my family (again, see linked problem), and get terribly aggravated by traffic/travel. My work day is a company-accepted 8a-5p, though I'm always with my electronic tether (blackberry).
I'm probably depressed, but I'm not sure it's just the job.
I have no energy to do anything anymore, at work, or more importantly, at home.
I'm unpleasant to be around, especially when thoughts turn to work. My wife is a total saint... I don't know how she puts up with my crankiness and petulance.
I'm in my early 30's and already feel like I'm throwing my life away.
So I don't know whether a change of scenery will help me (what if the grass just seems greener on the other side), whether I just hate working period (maybe I'm just a lazy ass, and I just need to suck it up and do my 9-5), or I have it really good (short commute, decent hours, okay pay, good friends at work, low expectations) and just don't appreciate it because of everything else happening in my life.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Just typing this out has been helpful in sorting out my thoughts, so thanks for putting up with the whining to this point :)