I want to make friends, I keep getting dates. I'm not interested in an exclusive relationship with anyone at the moment. How do I turn a first date into a friendship without bruising egos?
I'm an attractive twentysomething female, just moved so I'm trying to make friends inside and outside of work. But I keep getting asked out on dates. I don't mind going out, but I just got out of a serious relationship and I have no real desire to get exclusive in the next couple months.
I don't want to turn someone down for a first hang-out request, because that's presumptuous ("he wants to do lunch, must be attracted to me")... and more importantly, I still want to get to know these guys! Am I doing wrong by him to NOT say "OK but JUST AS FRIENDS" before I agree to have a cup of coffee?
So let's say there's a guy I've been out with once, and we had a great time. He asks me out on date number two. How and when do I start dropping those hints and/or having that conversation? Before we go on the second date? Before he tries for a kiss goodnight? Do I need to do this in person (read: on the date), or should I call beforehand?
I'm usually a pretty blunt person, but I do recognize the important role of subtlety in protecting egos. This thread
gave me some good thoughts, but what if we've already made it past date one?