He gave me his number, BUT.....
August 31, 2010 11:59 AM Subscribe
Isn't there some rule that a guy isn't really interested unless he asks for your number?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (36 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So I have this financial advisor at my bank and have seen him for the past 3 weekends solely for business stuff. Our first conversation was awesome. As he processed my accounts, we talked about school, work, family and pretty much everything else. I was really struck by how instantly we clicked. The second weekend, I ran in to him while doing other bank business and he was still really friendly and was so happy to see me. We got to chatting about the weekend and, from what I gather, he is definitely single. The third weekend, I had a set appointment with him and he called me Friday to remind me about the appointment. We ended up playing phone tag to confirm my appointment, but I was really surprised that he kept calling me back, especially since I had already given him the info in the voicemail. I have considered that maybe this guy is just really good at his job and not necessarily interested me.
When we met for the appointment, he was running late with a previous person, but he came out to tell me he would be right out and apologized. When we finally had our appointment, he kept apologizing and I told him I didn't mind and that I was hoping he would've taken longer because I was dreading a meeting I had after the appointment. He told me that we could definitely take our time. He then started to ask me what I did the previous night (Friday) and week. We caught up with some chat and, like our first meeting, our conversation was awesome.
When I told him a friend of mine was getting photos done, he asked if she needed a photographer and immediately started to ruffle through his wallet and started giving me business cards. He gave me two for his friends and then he gave me his, but he just said, "and here's my card." He never went on about what he did (which he went to at length with the other photographers' cards). So I am worried that he gave me his number just for a job and not because he is interested in me.
What do you guys think? I know he couldn't have asked me for my number because he was at work and that would've been unprofessional, and he would've risked a customer complaint if I wasn't interested, but isn't there some rule that a guy isn't really interested unless he asks for your number? Or is giving me his # (assuming he is interested) the safest way to approach the situation from his end?