I want to be less consumed by bitterness
August 3, 2010 2:26 PM Subscribe
How do I learn to let things wash over me and become a less bitter person generally in life?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (29 answers total) 60 users marked this as a favorite
I feel bitter. I know it hurts no one but myself. It's not what I want to be, not who I want to be. But right now, it strikes me that I am not a healthy person.
I feel so angry and hurt about it when I feel like friends aren't as giving and gracious to me as I feel I've historically been to them. Like they're not being good friends to me, and it's not fair, and how could they, and all those entitled, self-righteous, unpleasant trains of thought that arise in such moments.
I am more interested in improving my reactions and letting go of petty scorekeeping like this than in trying to convince these people to be better friends to me. I recognize that my angry, hurt, bitter reaction to stupid things hurts me more than them, and hurts me more than anything they're directly doing. I don't like the person I'm turning into. I don't like feeling prone to anger, ranting, trying to remember who not to give anything to because I know they won't ever return the favor, all that nasty stuff inside my head. (No special snowflake details. I am the everyman.)
How do I stop? How do I learn to let go of the bitterness and just let things wash over me instead? I want to, I do, but I honestly don't know how.
Have any of you learned to improve and become less bitter as people, and if so, what's your story? Any tactics or techniques?