Help me gain some perspective on my pregnancy weight gain.
June 17, 2010 1:33 PM Subscribe
Pregnancy weight gain. Help me gain some perspective on what it means to have gained too much weight.
posted by kitcat to health & fitness (40 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 27 weeks and I've gained 31 pounds. I started at a normal BMI, and so should be gaining 25-35 pounds for the entire pregnancy, according to my doctor and various other reputable sources. With 13 weeks to go, I've gained too much weight.
I've always had to watch what I ate very closely to avoid weight gain. Like many women, I'm sensitive about my weight. However, I told myself that during my pregnancy, I wasn't going to play into my insecurities and I absolutely was not going to diet, or obsess over what I ate. I was going to eat healthy food when I was hungry, damnit, and eat treats from time to time too. And this is what I have done. I never expected to really gain 'too much' weight, although it felt kind of optional. My grandma proudly proclaimed that she gained 60 pounds in one of her pregnancies. And heck, I've never gained 30 pounds before, so how should I know how easily it can happen?
Despite my brave convictions at the beginning of all this and my attempts to feel ok about it now, the truth is that I feel bad about myself, and have done every time I have to get on the scale at the doctor's office. I've left in tears. It's not that I hate how I look, it's more like I feel ashamed of myself, like I've done something 'bad' and I must be weak and pathetic.
On the other hand, I haven't been on a steady diet of cake and ice cream; as I said, I've just been eating more, with more treats (i.e. a donut, a muffin, ice cream, a bag of chips). Treats maybe 5 -7 times a week instead of 1 or 2. Maybe I should start counting calories again, but life is stressful enough as it is.
Anyhow, my doctor wants me to 'be careful' for the rest of the pregnancy, but inside my head, all I can hear is "I can only gain 4 more pounds", over and over again.
Please give me your insights and anecdata on pregnancy weight gain to help me judge how typical my feelings and weight gain are. How much gain is really too much? Is the 25-35 pounds number truly a health-motivated target, or is there some 'women shouldn't be fat' prejudice in there too? Do most women manage to gain an amount of weight that their doctors deem acceptable? I you gained lots of weight, did it affect your baby's health? Do you regret gaining so much weight? Did it really matter in the end? I realize this is a lot of questions. If you can answer any of them I will be grateful.