So. Babies, eh?
January 11, 2010 11:51 AM Subscribe
[ZygoteFilter] I'm apparently fully into that stage where everyone around me is pregnant and I'm actually not horrified at the prospect of becoming a parent. To me, that means ALL SYSTEMS GO... within, oh, a couple years or whatever.
What should I/we do now, either things to do before trying to conceive/getting pregnant, or things you wish you'd have had in place before you Got To That Place?
posted by Madamina to health & fitness (25 answers total) 79 users marked this as a favorite
I like having a plan, even if I know things will go all cattywompus :P
I'm 30, and about 18 months into a relationship with a wonderful partner. As we've both been married before, we're pretty sure that we're now in the right relationship to make this happen. We'd like to get married beforehand, but if our BC failed (we just use barrier methods), we'd be okay. We talk about it and discuss things like children and how we want our kids to be raised pretty frequently, and we're on the same page. I also try to spend more time with babies and little kids whenever I can.
I've finished the schooling I intend to have, and I have a reasonably stable job working for the state (yay for good health insurance!). We live near my family, and although my mother is batshit insane, she would be pretty helpful on a "we're not counting on you for everything" level. (I think a lot of our parenting will be "Don't do it like Grandma -- take a chill pill.")
What should I do for my body to get it ready to carry a baby? The obvious ones are starting folic acid supplements and probably improving my overall fitness level (I've got no real overriding health concerns, but I'm not in great shape), specifically my core and back muscles. I take a reasonably low dose of Effexor for depression, but I could probably switch to something else or taper down verrrrrry slowly (I'm not stupid, here). Should I bother trying to lose weight from my current size 18, or just focus on overall functionality? Anything else?
What should we do for our finances? Is there some nice round figure that could help us plan, like "you need at least $500 a month extra for a baby"? We have no major non-school debt, but we don't own a house.
Aside from the obvious "take a crazy vacation that you can never do again," what other things should we should get out of the way as a couple?
Are there other places where I can head off some stuff now to make a potential pregnancy and early motherhood easier?