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How can I prepare for work situations that affect me materially, like salary negotiations, requesting a promotion and/or raise, asking to work on particular projects, etc.?
posted by ocherdraco to Work & Money (10 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I don't have the opportunity to at the moment (salary freeze at my company, yeeha), but the next time I need to ask for something that materially affects my earnings or position at work, I want to be able to do it effectively. The last time I asked for a promotion, I was told yes immediately, but my boss took nearly four months to implement it. I followed up with my boss once a month after the initial request, and the third (and final) time, he told me to "hold my horses," and that it would happen soon (it finally did, about a week and a half later; I was still really galled by the "hold your horses" remark, given how long I'd already been waiting after being told it would happen*).
I want to be able to ask for these things in a way that gets results, but that also doesn't get responses like "hold your horses." How can I do that? I am particularly interested in skills that are helpful across many different types of negotiation or request (asking for a raise or lobbying for projects that I think are worthwhile, for example), rather than only applicable to one situation.
If it's relevant, I'm in my mid-20s and a woman, and I work for a man. I do not want to be an example of the stereotype that women earn less and are promoted less because they don't ask for things or because their asking is perceived as reflecting poorly upon them.
*I should note that in general my boss is great to work for. This is pretty much the only time he's ever said something dismissive like this, and I imagine he didn't realize he was being dismissive.