February 19, 2010 9:12 AM Subscribe
Have you ever performed a romantic-comedy-type grand gesture to win over a woman in real-life? If so, what was it and what were you thinking as you were planning/executing?
posted by decathecting to human relations (33 answers total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
I'm writing a work of fiction (not totally sure yet whether it's a novel or a play), and I'm creating a male character who is trying to win the heart of a female character by doing all of the cheesy stuff that people do in romantic comedies. Serenading on her front lawn, sending a hundred roses to her office, writing long love letters about his passion for her, anonymously sending her a banjo, etc.
I'm having trouble getting inside this guy's head, plus I'd like some ideas for moves that are a little more realistic, less cliche. So I'm looking for people who have, in real life, performed big romantic gestures for someone they were trying to woo. I'm interested in both plans that worked and those that didn't.
I'm interested in what you did, but I'm also interested in what your thought process was. What were you thinking and feeling as you planned it? Did you have a specific vision of how it would go and how she would see you? How were you hoping she'd react? Did you tell your friends what you were planning to do, and what was their response? What was her response to the event? If it didn't work, how did you feel afterward? Did you try something else? Have you ever done something like that a second time?