How to support friends with a dying child?
February 17, 2010 2:10 AM Subscribe
What to do for friends with a dying child?
posted by k8t to human relations (10 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My married college friends were pregnant a few months after we were, living across the country. We communicated a lot about baby stuff then and after the babies were born.
Yesterday I got an email that the baby, now about a year, has a genetic condition that will result in her death between 18 months-3 years of age. Starting NOW all developmental progress ends and the baby will go into decline.
I feel awful. I couldn't sleep last night. I guess it is a mix of survivor's guilt and sadness.
What can I do for them? I replied to the email sending my love. I donated some money to the foundation for the condition. What can I do to be most helpful while at a distance? Gifts? Books (appropriate?)?
I have no idea what their plans are in terms of continuing to work, keeping the baby in daycare, if this is going to be a financial challenge for them, etc.