How can I help a friend whose partner has been arrested?
October 7, 2009 6:50 AM Subscribe
Help me comfort a friend whose partner was just arrested for the local equivalent of grand theft.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (25 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Friend A's partner B was just arrested for stealing at least $20k worth of goods from work over a few years.
Yesterday, A returned home to their apartment that had been searched under a warrant and has had her possessions seized. There are also potential legal implications for her.
A was initially under the impression that B had merely been buying said goods at a discounted staff rate and selling them on at a profit but has just found out that he had actually stolen them. He admitted that this began a year ago and essentially had kept it from her despite her constant warnings that the buying-at-discount-selling-at-profit might get him (and her) into trouble.
She is complete wreck because she has to deal with the tenancy agreements and other related issues but right now the last straw is the dishonesty on his part. She feels obligated to support him through this terrible time (he is scared and is really just a nice guy who made a series of stupid mistakes and in the course of their relationship treated her like a princess) but is also naturally angry with him and unsure about the relationship.
- What should she do? (I expect the answers won't be conclusive)
- How can I comfort her?
- How can I comfort him, given that he has become a friend through her?
Not looking for any legal advice, there are already lawyers involved.