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July 16, 2009 9:49 AM Subscribe
How can I stop feeling bad for myself when something good happens to one of my friends?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (25 answers total) 30 users marked this as a favorite
Today one of my friends had something extraordinary happen to him, something that is best defined as "crazy good", and I am proud of him, know he put lots of hard work into it, etc.
But this also brought up the green monster in me. This happens a lot, I have trouble being genuinely happy for other people because I was raised to be very competitive, and to always fight to be the best. So while great things happen to total strangers on a daily basis, when something good happens to a friend (be it an award, a promotion, a huge cash bonus, etc.) I can't help but feel jealous.
The closer someone's success is to my own life (they work in the same field, they achieve something I'd wanted to, they make money) it is even worse.
I'm wondering how to get past the "me" part of all this so I can just genuinely celebrate the success of those close to me.