Wedding gift, or not?
March 19, 2009 3:38 PM Subscribe
Emergency last-minute wedding gift etiquetteFilter! Invite sort of says don't really bring gifts, but sort of says do. What do I do?!
posted by paultopia to human relations (22 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So I'm flying to Seattle tomorrow to go to a friend's wedding. And I realized, just now, that I should probably figure out whether to bring a gift.
Here's what the invite (ok, the wedding website) says:
We think that the best gift is your blessing and friendship! But if you would like to give a wedding gift, please consider the options listed below.
We welcome contributions to two charities that are important to us:
Housewares and camping gear:
Macy's, Crate and Barrel and REI (registry links below):
and I don't really know how to interpret it. I know how to interpret "no gifts, please," I know how to interpret "charity in lieu of gifts," and I know how to interpret "here's our registry." I don't know how to interpret all three in the same place!
-The friend is pretty good, but not super-super close BFF.
-I'm a poor grad student, and, honestly, the whole gift registry thing puts me off. But perhaps I should at least give a good bottle of wine or something? The friend is a grad student too, but I think her family has money, and I'm not sure about the intended.
-I'm already spending $300+ on a junket to Seattle to attend this thing.
What to do? Save me, MeFi!