A slap isn't just a slap is it?
December 13, 2008 5:45 AM Subscribe
So she slapped me twice, for, I think -- no reason. Time to go?
posted by gadha to human relations (124 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
So I've been seeing her for about a year, and we've had the usual ups and downs. However, two things happened in the span of two weeks which are making me question this whole relationship.
The first time, we were having an argument/discussion about communication -- she was saying I don't talk to her much at all or let her know about my day while I was saying it's not that it's just that sitting in front of a screen writing code doesn't make for a very eventful day. It was by no means a heated or angry argument, more a discussion but for some reason she just got up and slapped me really really hard (I saw stars!). I didn't respond, just walked out of the room, came back in 5 minutes and asked her why she slapped me, she said she was sorry she just got really frustrated and that she "gets like this sometimes". Hmm, ok.
Second time around was yesterday. She came home, started complaining about an indicident at her work, I said words to the effect of "Could we talk about this later? I have this deadline to meet tonight" (she had been previously aware of the deadline). For some reason this really seemed to tick her off and she started shouting about how I'm an inconsiderate a****** etc, all punctuated by a hard, painful slap (no stars but ringing ears).
I got up, really really angry, said nothing, picked up my laptop and went to work. Where I am now. I'm going to have to do something about this, and I don't know what. On one hand this is unacceptable, on the other hand I think "don't be a baby, its a slap". I know when I go home it'll be all apologies and sorries. I really really like her, and I have no reason to believe she doesn't feel the same about me. But, really? And then I think "it's just a stupid slap". Any advice?