Should I move out of boyfriend's, and into best friend's?
October 23, 2008 12:08 AM Subscribe
How bad a faux pas would it be to move out
of a (multi-person) shared house with a new but lovely boyfriend, and into my best friend's house instead?
posted by Elysum to human relations (28 answers total)
A FWB, became a housemate, and in the last few months, a boyfriend. Despite some initial confusion, everything seems to be going really well.
But. A room has finally come open in my best friend's house.
Best friend... sounds so highschool?
This is the person I would most like to hang with, travel with, live with, and according to the old saw, accompany to move bodies with etc (I don't find the last one very funny :( ).
So, exactly how bad would you consider it to have a new partner want to move out, and go live with their best friend & several other friends, instead?
To explain, in my shiny happy world, I'm all 'Yay! Friends!', my first thought is that I would understand if he felt the same situation. Let's just assume I have some-times socialisation problems, in a slightly 'aspie' happy-shiny world kinda way, and I often don't realise the social implications and consequences of certain actions, until they are explained to me in small (or big) words, at which point I can take them into account.
I have a sinking feeling this might be one of those situations. Rather than getting into a mess -
I was just going to ask/tell him directly, but I'm worried it might be one of those sorts of situations where someone would say "Sure, do whatever you need to do" even if they didn't feel that way, and put a brave face on it.
And if so, if I just try to feel out they'd feel about it, if were hurt by the idea then they may not be able to explain it in the best/clearest of ways?
And therefore, I'd appreciate a gauge of opinions?