Do men get choked in porn?
October 9, 2021 11:58 PM Subscribe
I can't get a good answer from googling and it is not something I want to personally research on porn sites (no judgement! just not my thing), but I am super curious if men are getting choked as a sexual kink in straight and/or gay porn (the asphyxiation thing and/or control), or if this is a specific thing about choking women as the media coverage seems to suggest.
It exists, but I think "vanilla" porn (eg people searching for the most common keywords on the tube sites) is much more likely to have a man choking a woman rather than a woman choking a man.
posted by wooh at 12:46 AM on October 10, 2021 [9 favorites]
posted by wooh at 12:46 AM on October 10, 2021 [9 favorites]
It is definitely present in gay porn. I know at least three gay male acquaintances who have mentioned choking/being choked as a consensual part of their personal sex lives, one of whom also works as an adult film actor.
I wonder if it's partially this article that's fuelling discussion of choking as something done to women, in which their data indicates that it's largely men and (bafflingly undifferentiated) transgender/non-binary people who perform choking on their sexual partners. That's discussion talk sexual practice, not porn, but there is obviously some relationship between the two.
posted by wakannai at 12:47 AM on October 10, 2021 [1 favorite]
I wonder if it's partially this article that's fuelling discussion of choking as something done to women, in which their data indicates that it's largely men and (bafflingly undifferentiated) transgender/non-binary people who perform choking on their sexual partners. That's discussion talk sexual practice, not porn, but there is obviously some relationship between the two.
posted by wakannai at 12:47 AM on October 10, 2021 [1 favorite]
I don't think I've actually seen a girl choking a guy in a couple of decades worth of straight porn. Gay porn not so sure, haven't seen all that much. You would have to get out of the vanilla and into fetish, the problem being that most girls hands aren't big enough to effectively choke a big necked guy. You'd need a dog collar or a choke chain to twist unless it's some amazonian woman and some tiny dude. I'm sure that there is BSDM or other kink with a latex bound mistress choking the guy with a whip while pegging him with a strap-on of the gay male equivalent leather boys or something. The general asphyxia around climax while not universal is not particularly gendered. I don't think I've seen lesbians choking each other either. Again probably more down the line into BSDM.
posted by zengargoyle at 3:03 AM on October 10, 2021 [1 favorite]
posted by zengargoyle at 3:03 AM on October 10, 2021 [1 favorite]
Perhaps an adjacent aspect, but there's also ladies sitting on people's faces, which I think often incorporates aspects of breath play
posted by Jacen at 3:30 AM on October 10, 2021 [2 favorites]
posted by Jacen at 3:30 AM on October 10, 2021 [2 favorites]
Definitely part of gay porn. Very common in gay BDSM porn, but also seen in some non-BDSM themed gay porn.
posted by hworth at 6:54 PM on October 10, 2021
posted by hworth at 6:54 PM on October 10, 2021
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