AMAB -> nonbinary -> "But you still LOOK like a guy..."

February 11, 2019 8:10 AM

I'm looking for recommendations of stories/experiences (blogs, books, etc) of AMAB people who now identify as non-binary, but have kept a "male" appearance in terms of body hair, fashion, and the like. I'm mostly interested in their self-discovery journeys, but day-to-day experiences are also welcome.
posted by anonymous to Society & Culture (4 answers total)

Chris Breechen doesn't exactly say he identifies as non-binary, but his identification is ambiguousish and might be of interest.
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 8:45 AM on February 11, 2019

(Feel free to memail me if you're comfy doing so. This is my boat, to a degree.)
posted by hijinx at 9:59 AM on February 11, 2019

AMAB, identifying as non-binary, still have a beard. But I push-back on people who use the wrong pronouns. And I occupy space as a queer person by wearing the colours. I think I have a lot to say about it, and I'm still very much in the middle of any kind of process, but I'm not really about typing it down right now, if you know what I mean. I guess my message is: I get it, I really get it, and if we got together in person I'm sure we'd wind up weeping in sympathy at some point. And then get fired up to use our tremendous privilege even more as a space-making force for our less fortunate friends.
posted by seanmpuckett at 10:45 AM on February 11, 2019 [4 favorites]

Nico Tortorella is openly non-binary has done a number of interviews and social media postings about it (example).
posted by veery at 1:23 PM on February 11, 2019