Feminism, my foot!
April 10, 2015 10:25 PM Subscribe
A female friend of mine, who identifies as a feminist, has been living with a man for a few years now and is waiting for him to propose. The man seems alright with the current status quo, but my friend clearly isn't. Biological clock and all that.
When I suggested that she ask him to marry her, she gave me a ghastly look as in "a woman just doesn't ask for a man's hand". Well, as a feminist she should now better, right?
I'm annoyed at her because she talks about it all the time, has these adolescent romantic fantasies (which to me seem fabricated by the advertisement industry in the West to create unhappiness-by-comparison) like getting an engagement ring, walking down the aisle in a white gown and then heading off to a remote island for the honeymoon.
Her man mostly avoids that conversation. And by constant rehashing it, she has now made it my problem.
Now my question: how do I convince her to grow up and enjoy things as they are, or leave me out of it altogether? Should I even try to convince her?
I'm annoyed at her because she talks about it all the time, has these adolescent romantic fantasies (which to me seem fabricated by the advertisement industry in the West to create unhappiness-by-comparison) like getting an engagement ring, walking down the aisle in a white gown and then heading off to a remote island for the honeymoon.
Her man mostly avoids that conversation. And by constant rehashing it, she has now made it my problem.
Now my question: how do I convince her to grow up and enjoy things as they are, or leave me out of it altogether? Should I even try to convince her?
This post was deleted for the following reason: This feels way too scattered and like it's primarily venting to really work as an Ask Metafilter question. -- cortex
When I suggested that she ask him to marry her, she gave me a ghastly look as in "a woman just doesn't ask for a man's hand". Well, as a feminist she should now better, right?
I agree with you about everything you've said. But what I'd like to know is: what do you say to her when she says women just aren't supposed to do that? Do you ask: "Why not?" Do you ask: "Why would you just go along with whatever women are supposed to do?"
posted by John Cohen at 10:33 PM on April 10, 2015
I agree with you about everything you've said. But what I'd like to know is: what do you say to her when she says women just aren't supposed to do that? Do you ask: "Why not?" Do you ask: "Why would you just go along with whatever women are supposed to do?"
posted by John Cohen at 10:33 PM on April 10, 2015
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posted by pretentious illiterate at 10:31 PM on April 10, 2015