Broken Vagina
September 17, 2010 11:19 AM   Subscribe

I know that you are not my doctor, but maybe you've had similar problems with your vag? I think mine's broken...

I was scheduled to see my gyno a few days ago but she had to cancel for an emergency delivery, so in the interim I thought I'd see if any of you have an idea about this... My boyfriend is spectacular in bed and often brings me to an average of 3 orgasms per 'session' if you will. Every once in a while, though, even after 3 orgasms I'm still completely dry. Which is really bizarre, because I'll be begging him to fuck me already and then... time to break out the lube? Seriously? I thought this type of thing was only supposed to happen to me in my 60's.

Is this relatively normal? Why could this be happening?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (20 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite

 
Totally normal.
posted by Eshkol at 11:25 AM on September 17, 2010 [3 favorites]


You are probably lacking in the hormone department. You might need to have some blood work to check your Estrogen and Testosterone levels.
posted by morganannie at 11:26 AM on September 17, 2010


Normal. Are you taking any decongestants or anything else that's supposed to dry up your nose? It can have, um, extened effects.
posted by jessamyn at 11:26 AM on September 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


How old are you? I was used to this attitude too until pretty recently, because in my mid 20s it was redonkulous how easily I could get wet copiously. That's just standard stuff, par for the course that age. I'm hardly in my 60s (hell I'm still in my 20s, just barely), but the past year it's dropped significantly. I don't think it's anything to worry about necessarily, but I'm not a doctor...there's a reason there's so much lube on the market. If that's seriously the only symptom personally I wouldn't worry too much. If you have dry itchy skin elsewhere or other signs of dehydration--what color is your pee?--maybe work on that (drink more water, less caffeine and soda, less alcohol, less salt more fresh produce etc.), but.
posted by ifjuly at 11:27 AM on September 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


Relatively common, don't know if that means normal or not.
posted by RustyBrooks at 11:27 AM on September 17, 2010


Normal. Not everyone's a lube factory. Use however much you need to make it comfortable, whether it's right at the beginning or well on in.
posted by ocherdraco at 11:27 AM on September 17, 2010


Normal. Normal to the 10,000th degree.
posted by bilabial at 11:28 AM on September 17, 2010


Do not be afraid of using lube. It's merely a tool to make sex more enjoyable. It doesn't say anything about you as a woman or you as a couple. Needing, or wanting, to use lube doesn't mean you're broken, faulty, or not aroused enough. Seriously.

Talking to your gynecologist is always a good idea, especially if you're concerned. But. Lack of lubrication can also be dependent on how hydrated you are, how much you've had to drink, where your head's at, what part of your cycle you're in, and a million other things. Don't pathologize it, necessarily. Use lube when you feel you need to and enjoy your orgasms.
posted by lydhre at 11:28 AM on September 17, 2010 [7 favorites]


It happens. Lube is good. Good lube is awesome. If you're using a barrier method of birth control, make sure its compatible with the lube.
posted by rmd1023 at 11:29 AM on September 17, 2010


I'm kind of shocked and jealous that there are ANY women who DON'T use lube. That's normal too, though. Just sayin'. All normal!
posted by peep at 11:32 AM on September 17, 2010


Totally normal. Using lube is also normal, it's not just for post-menopausal women.

There can be influencing factors like ceiling fans, decongestants, dehydration, etc, but there's likely nothing wrong with you. Even if you just flat out physically produce little to no natural lubrication, the solution is still lube. There are a variety of kinds, and some are incompatible with other products (like latex or silicone), but a browse through any of your favorite adult supply websites (Good Vibrations is a good woman-friendly privacy-respecting site, if you don't have a favorite) is a good starting point and reference.
posted by Lyn Never at 11:39 AM on September 17, 2010


Amount of natural lube produced can vary with the point you're at in your menstrual cycle and/or whether or not you're using any hormonal contraceptives. YMMV as to the details of these effects.
posted by Lebannen at 11:43 AM on September 17, 2010


Nthing what everyone has said. All kinds of factors can have an impact; decongestants, hormones, cycle...probably not a big deal.
posted by SecretAgentSockpuppet at 11:54 AM on September 17, 2010


Great to still go to the gyn instead of self-diagnosing, but I'll second : normal.
posted by micawber at 12:02 PM on September 17, 2010


yep! normal! i'm a lube factory. sometimes i produce so much that we have to stop and wipe me down mid session, lest i flood the whole place. however, sometimes, no matter how horny i am, no matter how many times i've reached orgasm, i'm dry as a bone. i take care of this by saying, "sweetie, i'm so fucking turned on right now and don't want to stop, would you go grab the lube, please." - he sprints away and comes back and we're back on like donkey kong.
posted by nadawi at 12:07 PM on September 17, 2010 [3 favorites]


and i've suggested it a few times on metafilter - but, some women are super sensitive to lube (i am!). try to find one without sugars in it. slippery kitty is one i've used. at one point they claimed to be the only lube FDA approved for vaginal use, but i'm not sure if that's actually true or not.
posted by nadawi at 12:12 PM on September 17, 2010 [3 favorites]


Try drinking more water, like 3-4 glasses, especially in the few hours beforehand.

I am not a lady, so this is secondhand advice.
posted by Nameless at 1:48 PM on September 17, 2010


ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. Also, using lube can be fun. Consider re-framing the lube use so it doesn't feel like there's something wrong?
posted by serazin at 1:55 PM on September 17, 2010


A number of different medications can affect lubrication, not just decongestants. This is normal, but still worth talking to your gynecologist (or PCP) about; they may be able to help.
posted by epj at 5:41 PM on September 17, 2010


You are probably lacking in the hormone department. You might need to have some blood work to check your Estrogen and Testosterone levels.

Ignore morganannie. You are not lacking in anything. Take it from a 46yo hetero guy: many, many women dry out during sex.

Your body isn't an infinite fountain. There's only so much water to go around it.
posted by IAmBroom at 6:35 PM on September 17, 2010


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