Apology vs. Family Strife
March 3, 2008 4:09 PM Subscribe
Should I apologize to my step-mother for a sarcastic response to a wacked out email she sent me. I don't feel like I should...
Can anyone offer ideas on how to write an apology letter that's not really an apology?
posted by purenitrous to human relations (75 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Here's the background... (sorry about the length)
First, my dad and his wife have been married for close to twenty years. Throughout this time we've enjoyed a friendly, respectful relationship. However that all changed recently.
Last fall my wife and I both received a very angry email at our work email accounts from my step mother. She had accidentally stepped in what may have been my dogs poop after we had visited their house (the dog and I were the only visitors). My wife felt the email was inappropriate for her work accounts and replied asking this stuff be sent to her personal email account.
I on the other hand, felt her rage she did not match the offense, and replied with sarcasm.
A week later she sent my wife and I a written apology. I can't remember the details but it was a short, terse message basically saying she was sorry for send the email to our work addresses and that she would no longer be communicating with us via email.
At this point I shrugged off the entire thing. My Dad and his wife flew south for the winter and that was the last I heard of it. Well, now they're back. I go over to visit and she (step-mom) is conspicuously missing. I asked Dad where she is, he says shes still sore about my response and HE wants me to write her an apology letter to smooth things out. Should I do it?
Here is her email:
"For all future visits please leave your dog at home. There is a REASON why we DO NOT have a dog! I do not wish to clean up after a dog....especially one that is not my own. I really do not enjoy mowing the lawn, not knowing a dog was here and hitting that SHIT. I am sorry if this upsets you, but you can surely understand how I am feeling at this present time?"
Here is my Response: (something like this... I didn't save the exact response)
"LOL, did you forget to take your meds? Stepping in dog poop irritates me too. I am constantly finding other peoples dog poop in our yard as several neighbor dogs use it as a toilet. But I don't get that upset about it. I just shrug it off. Maybe you should too. I am sorry if this upsets you, but you can surely understand how I am feeling at this present time?""