How to "keep in shape" between infrequent romantic visits?
February 27, 2008 6:27 PM Subscribe
i'm in a long distance relationship, so my sex life goes something like this: five or six-week dry spell, intense weekend of sexytime, wash, repeat. i need help physically adapting.
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previously, we (me the girl, he the boy) were at college together and got to have sex all the time, with no problems. now that we don't see each other as often, the sex has hit some road bumps. due to the previous lack of sex, i feel pretty tight and need a lot of lube for our first "reunion." this is often slow going and somewhat painful for me. sometimes i bleed a little and get what feel like small internal tears. this of course puts a damper on the next time we have sex, since i'm uncomfortable. usually it's only by the end of the visit (three or four days) that i'm "back in the saddle." this is very frustrating since we get to see each other so little as it is, and we want to make the most of our time together. we'd like to get back to the comfort level i had when we had sex more frequently.
how can i "keep in shape" so we can avoid the reconditioning period every time we see each other? should i just practice with a vibrator (i.e. insertion)? time our visits with the "horny" week of my cycle? take some kind of hippie herbal supplement to relax? should we just get liquored up?
advice from others in long-distance relationships would be especially appreciated.