How and if to extend an olive branch... ?
January 11, 2008 9:45 PM Subscribe
A few years ago, I wrote a nasty letter to someone I loved who'd wronged me. I shouldn't have done it; it was a very mean letter. I apologized profusely, but was asked by this person to never contact her again.
I miss her friendship desperately. Given that it's been two and a half years, would it be unconscionable for me to pen her a short letter asking if we can make peace?
posted by anonymous to human relations (76 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Background: we dated off and on for two years and talked about having a child together. The letter was written at the tail end of that relationship when I was severely depressed due to a multitude of factors (severe debt, unemployment), most of which have been overcome completely (I have a great job and am no longer depressed) or almost completely (still have a bit of debt but am making major headway against it).
I truly want to respect her request to not contact her. However, the whole thing that came between us (her actions and my letter) now seem so trivial compared to never spending time with her again ... I'm torn. It'll hurt me to contact her (not out of pride, but because I feel her wish should be respected), but it's killing me not to.
Note: we have no common friends that can be felt out for advice.