How can I prepare myself for being a daddy?
December 25, 2007 12:04 PM Subscribe
I don't feel ready to have kids, ever. How can I shorten that to around 2-3 years?
posted by anonymous to human relations (27 answers total) 20 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 30. My girlfriend is 32. We'll probably be getting married in the next year or so (we talk about it, I just haven't proposed yet) and after that it's just a matter of time before she'll want to have kids. She has said she does not want them now (so no immediate pressure), but she does want them eventually (although possibly we might adopt).
I don't feel ready to have kids, at all. The thing is, I do want to have them eventually, so rather than putting this off until I feel ready I want to become the sort of person who is ready to have children.
So, I have 2-3 years. What are some things I can do to prepare myself for having kids, emotionally, mentally, economically, and physically? Will I ever feel ready? Or just scared as hell by the whole idea?
I looked through the past questions, and most of them ask "How do you know when it is the right time to have a child?" I want to know how to feel like I'm ready to have one.