How do I deal with a sociopath?
December 11, 2007 3:34 PM Subscribe
How do I deal with a sociopath that is connected to my social circle?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (34 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
Someone in my social circle is clearly a sociopath. She has no concern or remorse for anyone except herself. She manipulates needy, weak, and mentally ill people into doing her bidding, performing for her, and so on. She takes special pleasure into turning these people into selfish, mean, and self-destructive individuals because unhappy alienated people are the easiest to manipulate and, to her, the most fun to watch.
She has successfully turned people against one another- and especially myself because I can see through her. How do I save my remaining friends who only see glimpses of her behavior, and therefore can't call her on it? She preys on the fact that the average person will do nothing in the face of unreasonable behavior. She is especially canny in the use of online communication. She is not only quite detailed in her cyberstalking, but she has fun convincing others that this is an acceptable way to deal with problems. It makes enjoying 21st century life very difficult!
Myself and a few others would have no problem cutting her out of our lives, but she remains an acquaintance of others close to us who only regard her behavior as eccentric. She always attends social functions, uninvited, and people complain after she's gone, yet do nothing. There are also people who see through her but they don't see how she has actually changed other friends who have become these shells. Having her connected to me, even tangentially, makes my life a paranoid nightmare! My personal attempts to talk sense into my, once, close friends don't succeed because they are in denial. They think she's fun because she lets them indulge in their childish behavior. As for those she directly influences, they are too proud to admit that they are being manipulated. What can I possibly do? (My friends and I are all in our mid-late 20's-yes, that is too old for this behavior!)