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October 17, 2007 10:17 AM Subscribe
(If you are male) Do women meet your gaze/say hello/acknowledge that you exist when you are out walking? This probably seems like a ridiculous question, but it's been bugging me for a long time.
posted by stinkycheese to Human Relations (81 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
To explain, I moved to a small town (votes conservative, lots of farmers, about a 40 minute drive to Toronto) over five years ago now. I really like it here overall, but I can't help noticing that, when I walk downtown, whether night or day, whether the streets are near-empty or bustling, most women here do not in any way, shape or form acknowledge me.
Men will say "good morning" or "hi" or whatever, or at least nod their head - but most women suddenly find the sidewalk or the opposite side of the street very interesting, and studiously avoid my eyes. Aside from having sideburns to my jawline, I don't think I look at all unusual or threatening. I've also been living here long enough to be 'known' here (I also work downtown).
I'm just trying to get a sense of whether this is my own neurotic observation, or do women in small towns actually do this as a matter of course? Of course it's not all women, but I'd guess about 80-90%. And yes, I do say hello or try & engage people (it's a very friendly town overall & I love the way folks will generally greet each other).
FWIW this phenomenon isn't nearly so bad in my immediate neighbourhood, so it may just be a matter of familiarity. Still, I don't want to be an old man before I get a hello. I'm looking for any input here, from males or females.