How to help good friends enduring marital issues?
September 24, 2007 10:48 AM Subscribe
How do I best help and support long time friends in the midst of marital issues?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (9 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Hi all - I'm just after a little advice about how best I can help a pair of close long-time friends who are experiencing marital issues right now.
I won't go into the details of their problems, suffice to say I've known them both for 15 or more years, they have young children and they are going to seek counselling and try to work through the situation. A general breakdown of things has occurred over a period of time to a point where the marriage is in some semblence of trouble.
I seem to be the link point for both of them - I spent two or more hours on the phone to one of them yesterday, and a separate hour or more on the phone to the other partner today. They both know I'm talking to the other, and they both respect it and have no problems.
I've worked to listen, offer advice, comfort, perspective, objectivity, honesty and what have you. But I guess what I'm asking the massed intelligence here is if anyone has found themselves in a similar situation, and if so, how have they walked the line and tried to offer help in this situation.
Its not an easy line to walk. I love them both and want to see them happy, whatever that might entail. But how best do I go about this balancing act?