Co-worker with odd fixation on my previous relationships...only when new beaux is around, am I correct in my read of this?
August 13, 2007 5:26 AM Subscribe
Awkwardness v. Maliciousness: Am I correct in thinking that it is *way* impolite for a longtime (male) co-worker to bring up the subject of my particular past ex-girlfriends during happy-hours/dinners that include my current (well, 2 yrs now) girlfriend?
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The kicker here is that said co-worker, who is not what I would describe as socially clueless, *never* brings up my prior relationships in private conversation, only when my wonderful new beau is at the dinner table. I've always thought it was somewhat odd, tried to just ignore it, but now my beau tells me she's found it quite offensive.
I'm contemplating a frank and not particularly friendly confrontation next time it occurs (or if I have a chance to do so privately, which is rare), but since this is a work/colleague situation, that could do me long-term career damage that I may not want to tempt. I'm just curious if I reading of this situation matches the experience of others in being a bona fide instance of baiting/harassment, versus...I'm not sure what. Your thoughts/experiences much appreciated, dear internet(s).
[In case it matters, we're all in our mid-30s, and somewhat associated with humanities-centric academic-like pursuits and organizations (i.e., uber-competitive orgs with no one making any serious cash). Otherwise I would describe us all as fairly left-leaning and quite friendly. Also, the co-worker has never had "a thing" for my beaux, as far as I could ever tell (and I believe I could tell)...co-worker is safely married with children to seemingly wonderful spouse.]